It’s OK to want to be chosen

We all want to be chosen. It’s a natural, human longing — one rooted in our need for connection, belonging, and safety. But when that desire comes from unhealed wounds, it can lead us into patterns that reflect pain rather than possibility. In this piece, I explore how the longing to be chosen shows up in romantic relationships, how it can echo early attachment dynamics, and what it means to choose differently from a place of wholeness.